Breaking the Trauma Spell: One Healthy Choice at a Time
Today, I got off the phone with a client who broke the trauma spell.
She had received confirmation from three directions — not new information, but a recognition that something fundamental had already shifted.
“You told me this had happened,” she reminded me. And yes — I had.
I don’t work with trauma in the traditional therapeutic sense. My work is about pattern breaking — through the YodTum method, which helps people reconnect with the deeper intention their life carries. To do that, we shine light on everything that blocks the path: where fear lives, where shadow hides, where the old stories keep looping.
To arrive at the moment when the spell breaks is rarely sudden. We had traveled 100,000 routes around it — slowly, bravely circling closer. So yes, I can tell when we’ve arrived. When the old grip has loosened, and a new path opens.
And yet, even in that clarity, there can be residue.
The smoke of old suffering still hangs in the air.
She shared a sense of lingering disappointment — not overwhelming, but present. That’s when something important happened. She told me a counselor had affirmed something about her choices: they were healthy. Especially the tough ones. We paused with that word: healthy. It landed. It rippled.
That sparked a question in me:
What would a healthy form of disappointment look like?
It’s a strange phrase, maybe — but it felt alive. The question stayed with me, especially as I noticed my own energy dipping under the weight of a flu. Physical unwellness, I’ve seen, can be a fast track to emotional confusion if we’re not attentive. So I asked myself:
What would a healthy way of not feeling well look like?
And from there, more questions followed:
What is healthy anger? Healthy grief? Healthy frustration?
I believe there’s a grounded path right through the middle — where we neither reject nor drown in our emotions. Where we feel what’s there without becoming it. There’s much talk these days about “allowing emotions,” and yes, that’s vital. But let’s be honest — there are unhealthy expressions on both ends of the spectrum. We can get swept away by our emotions and lose our center. But we can just as easily repress, deny, bypass, or minimize them — and lose access to ourselves. Both are ways we abandon truth. Both are ways the trauma spell reasserts itself.
So what if, just for today, you looked at your thoughts and feelings through a single, compassionate lens:
“Is this healthy?”
You’re the only one who can answer that. But you must ask. Because the unhealthy — left unchecked — quietly accumulates.Until we find ourselves living not from choice, but from habit and hurt. That can change. Not all at once. But one healthy choice at a time. Especially when that step is hard.
And here’s the deep truth we both landed on today:
We can stop living the sum total of unhealed trauma — by choosing one healthy step at a time.
Even something as simple as:
“I will feel this fully, but I will not get stuck in it.”
That’s how we break spells.
That’s how we lead ourselves back to truth.
About the Author
Lead True Global Leader Andrea Henning’s vision is that when people discover their authenticity and dare to follow their bliss they are happier and more successful in their lives while serving as an inspiration to their communities.
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